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Post by Ripper on Feb 4, 2008 9:46:19 GMT -5
Lads... Im longing for the days of being single. Im getting flack for spending money. I just bought the Les Paul a few weeks ago. I have put my Leslie cabinet on order, and now im looking at a new amp.
Im not broke. I do not spend money I dont have. Im 44, and have worked hard. Shes Philippina, but doesnt work in a sweat shop. We are blessed with a house thats paid for, food always on the table and never want for anything. Im not boasting by any means, im just trying to make a point that we are doing okay.
Guys...do you remember the days when you didnt have to justify everything you did?
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Post by ux4484 on Feb 4, 2008 11:15:29 GMT -5
Guys...do you remember the days when you didnt have to justify everything you did? yea....but I didn't have the money to do anything ...not to mentioned being undersexed ;D
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Post by andy on Feb 4, 2008 14:19:24 GMT -5
...and now you're married, at least the money situation has improved! ;D
I may be a little biased, but I think that my wifes restrictions on gear related spending have improved the decisions I make about what to buy, and what I really need to keep from that heap of stuff I have crammed about the house. I never thought I'd say it, but it has felt good to choose the guitars I'm going to stick with and then move the rest on, and having less options has actually helped my creative focus.
In fact I'm getting a couple of bits ready for ebay-ing in the next couple of weeks. Feels good.
I think its even made me fine tune my 'daydream' guitars too- I know what I would like if I ever had the money, rather than just wanting every guitar I see!
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Post by clr on Feb 4, 2008 15:32:48 GMT -5
if married life is like that, I think I'll stay single till death do I die (I say that wholeheartedly with no offense given
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Post by Runewalker on Feb 5, 2008 0:20:04 GMT -5
Guys...do you remember the days when you didnt have to justify everything you did? yea....but I didn't have the money to do anything ...not to mentioned being undersexed ;D most married dudes are undersexxed. Every hear a married guy complain that they were getting too much sex. How about any? I have had a varied career, and in one phase I was a psychotherapist. In couples counseling, 70% of the conflicts were over money. Who spent what, on what, for whom, and whether the other was consulted. A lot of it was gender. Guys wanted toys, Gals wanted nesting, fashion, bags and shoes. A lot of the conflict was control, and how each person feels misunderstood and "uncherished" by the other, when the other expends "our" resources on things that do not reinforce his or her priorities. In the end gals are much more skilled in psycho drama than guys. We just pout and stomp our feet.
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Post by andy on Feb 5, 2008 6:37:05 GMT -5
In the end gals are much more skilled in psycho drama than guys. We just pout and stomp our feet. I thought the girls did both in an argument! Girl: Psyco-drama Boy: *Scratch*, *Fart*, *Change Channel*... Girl: Pout and stomp feet! ;D
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Post by Ripper on Feb 5, 2008 11:40:25 GMT -5
I think Jack put it best in the movie "As good as it gets" When a woman asks him how he knows and understands the female mind so well...
" I think of a man, then I take away reasoning and accountabilty"
Jacks the man! ;D
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Post by ux4484 on Feb 5, 2008 11:58:37 GMT -5
most married dudes are undersexxed. Every hear a married guy complain that they were getting too much sex. How about any? and yet it's so comforting knowing that it's there if you want it.... ....without all that psycho-drama over why you didn't call three days later. I wouldn't be single again for ANYTHING.
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Post by jkemmery on Feb 5, 2008 20:17:48 GMT -5
Who wants to wager ux's wife reads GN2??
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Post by Ripper on Feb 6, 2008 0:47:49 GMT -5
jkemmery... I almost fell off of the chair when I read your comment! Yep!....Ill bet she was looking over his shoulder at the time. My lil woman reads it from time to time.... "Hun...I love you, but sometimes youre a pain in the butt" Whens dinner? ;D
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Post by sumgai on Feb 6, 2008 15:38:44 GMT -5
Y'all know, I was gonna stay out of this one, but....... deep, seeing as how the topic has turned to a common denominator, I can't help but wonder, as I look at your avatar...... how often do you ever say "Sorry love, no time for the ol' in and out"? ;D sumgai
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Post by clr on Feb 6, 2008 16:03:28 GMT -5
Not speaking for married couples.....but do most couples after a while of being together find that other priorities take ranking over sex?
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Post by sumgai on Feb 6, 2008 16:06:27 GMT -5
clr,
Money out-ranks all other issues, and at all times in one's life, even if one is married. Your question becomes relevant only after a certain age is achieved, early for some, later for others. Time together has almost nothing do to with it (unless there are a lot of other problems!).
sumgai
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Post by Ripper on Feb 6, 2008 18:49:49 GMT -5
Sumgai... Theres always time for "the old in out" Its funny, they say they need something like Viagra for woman. Theyve had it for years...Its called "The Visa Card" Its amazing!...All I have to do is tell her she can take mine to use when she goes out with her friends, and she gets as frisky as a kitten!.... ;D There must be a "love" chemical in the plastic!
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Post by clr on Feb 6, 2008 19:22:37 GMT -5
The good ol' days when sex used to be free
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Post by sumgai on Feb 7, 2008 14:18:44 GMT -5
The good ol' days when sex used to be free Hehehehehehe! He said sex and free in the same sentence! <snicker><snort><chortle><guffaw>hehehe Nope, sorry to disappoint you, but it has never been free. deep wasn't lying about that 'love chemical-in-plastic thing'....... Portraits of dead presidents all have the same chemical! ;D sumgai p.s. deep, maybe we should call it "eau de fish", you think that'll fly? ;D
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Post by clr on Feb 7, 2008 15:52:51 GMT -5
The good ol' days when sex used to be free Hehehehehehe! He said sex and free in the same sentence! <snicker><snort><chortle><guffaw>hehehe Nope, sorry to disappoint you, but it has never been free. how so?
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Post by newey on Feb 7, 2008 17:11:37 GMT -5
Wives aren't always standing in the way of we guitarists. Monday, I decided to act on a New Year's Resolution and sign up for guitar lessons. Haven't had a lesson in 35+ years, and I felt my time playing would be better spent if I was forced to have an agenda rather than simply noodling around. Anyway, $16 a week, I took the plunge and my first lesson is this Sat. Told the wife and she wasn't real happy- not ballistic, you understand, but she let me know about it. I heard "more money" and "all these guitar parts showing up in the mail" and "every time I turn around, there's a new guitar", etc etc. I quietly reminded her that, on that very day, she had paid $40 for a month's worth of tanning sessions at the local "fake 'n bake". I got a scowl in return. The next day, she called me at work and APOLOGIZED!! Said she didn't mean it, she knew how hard I worked, and how much I enjoyed my guitars, etc. I actually got an "I was out of line" from her. Love that woman. Still not enough sex though.
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Post by sumgai on Feb 8, 2008 14:45:22 GMT -5
clr, I'm afraid that you're too short to go on the big-kid's ride. Here's a pop quiz on economics for ya: Remember the old window sticker on the hippie VW vans that said "butt, gas or grass, nobody rides for free"? If you don't remember that, then let me tell ya, it means that no matter how much you'd like a ride to destination X, you'd better be prepared to pay for it in some way that gets the attention of the ride provider (the owner/driver of the van, in this case). IOW, it doesn't matter what form that payment takes, there will be a payment sometime down the road. Period. Fini. End of story. No way out of it. Call it the Law of Conservation of Moolah - "You can't destroy Moolah in one place without it cropping up in another place at the exact same time, in the exact same amount." Or sumpin' like that. ;D HTH sumgai
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Post by clr on Feb 8, 2008 16:19:08 GMT -5
sex is free when you make it good for them too Because when does a real man know that his woman has had an orgasm? A real man doesn't care!
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Post by jkemmery on Feb 8, 2008 18:29:57 GMT -5
sex is free when you make it good for them too Because when does a real man know that his woman has had an orgasm? A real man doesn't care! I know because my tongue feels like it just ran the Boston Marathon.
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Post by lpf3 on Feb 8, 2008 19:44:26 GMT -5
I can tell cause she usually drops her nailfile
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Post by sumgai on Feb 8, 2008 19:54:41 GMT -5
All right youse guys, youse could at least disguise your banter a bit better, OK? After all, this is supposed to be a family friendly forum, eh? Hmmmm.... Question: How can you have a family without sex? Never mind, carry on! Just be cool about your explicit references, got that? ;D sumgai
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Post by ChrisK on Feb 8, 2008 20:05:41 GMT -5
.............or stops yawning?
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Post by andy on Feb 9, 2008 21:29:14 GMT -5
I know because my tongue feels like it just ran the Boston Marathon.
That woman o' yours must take some sweet talkin'!
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Post by clr on Feb 10, 2008 0:49:20 GMT -5
"......it's either me or Lucille. That's why I've had 15 children by 15 women."
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Post by cynical1 on Mar 3, 2008 1:01:06 GMT -5
I'm with Sumgai on this...I really tried to stay out of this one...but...
I've been married for almost 27 years. Before you ask my secret, keep in mind that Richard Speck only did 25-1/2 years...and no one wants his secret...
As far as single men being undersexed...wait until you're married for 20+ years...
And as far as a Visa Card acting as the female Viagra...I tend to see more as the female version of crack...
As far as "the good old days"...that left with most of my hair years ago... Looking for them now is like waiting for gas to go back to $.49\gal.
If you're single and read this, take it as the "Abandon Hope All Ye Who Enter Here" warning.
If you're already married you either understand...or will eventually...
The greatest pleasure now is to go back and play the bass I've had for 20 years..it's the only old band member the wife will let back into the house these days.
Hope this brightened your day...
Happy Trails
Cynical1
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Post by ux4484 on Mar 25, 2008 15:25:36 GMT -5
Who wants to wager ux's wife reads GN2?? I waited very patiently for 40 days of Lent to respond (participating in boards was given up for the span). Good thing too... because I was ready to route a couple of you a new orifice. My Mrs is never over my shoulder when I'm posting, because working different shifts, when we are together, we ARE together, neither of us are by a computer for the few hours we have together. Together... I always used to break it down into TO GET HER.....and I did....over 25 years ago. I've never looked back, NEVER wanted to be single or on my own since. Dating was such a nerve racking situation back then when I was young, thin, and decent looking, I can only imagine that it would be unmitigated HELL in my current state. Playing in a band never really got me a girl, because when I was in my band, she was already my girlfriend (and even our singer for a short stint). She's never kept me from playing (though arguably it is usually on my own time when she's at work), or having gear. Heck, she's bought me a good portion of it! You can put whatever "value" you want on sex or money and the headaches they can lead to, but having someone who you fully enjoy spending time with and who understands you and allows you your time to participate in your interests is something you can't put a value on. Love is not "at first sight" lust, friendship, or co-operative financial stability; it's something that transcends them all, and if you have it, the other stuff almost falls into line. Corny? yes Impossible? you may say so... ...but for me, absolutely true.
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